Sail On!
“What shall we do when hope is gone?” The words swept like a leaping sword: “Sail On! Sail On! Sail On!
– Joaquin Miller
Happy Monday!
As I read these words over the weekend, I was inspired to do just that.
Leading into the weekend the forecast of winter weather heading our way was clearly imminent. And even as I prepared to put my garden to bed in the days leading up to Saturday, I knew that the there was no changing the course of what mother nature would in front of me once again this year.
Saturday as the snow began to fly, I fully felt my melancholy. Knowing the time had come to change my focus to other things in my life that need my attention. To find another portal for my creative spirit. To acknowledge that my boundaries I have created for myself are clear and that self-pity is never a good fit for me (or really anyone). So, there was no choice but to sail on!
I shared a little reel on Instagram about saying goodnight to my garden.
There are many ways to look at the boundaries we set for ourselves. You can think of boundaries as imaginary lines of protection. Once established they can serve to shield our mind, heart and soul from a variety of things some inner, some outer.
Beyond boundaries within ourselves these lines can also guard us from the unhealthy behavior of others, and the world at large.
Without boundaries in place, it is very difficult if not impossible to grow. This is because the weight of the unhappiness we leave ourselves open to can take over our emotional well-being.
The key is to ultimately, with time and practice, to create boundaries that are effortless to keep in place for you and those who come into your life. In this week’s Morning Momentum Monday video, I share some ideas on how to effectively incorporate boundaries into your life.
Boundaries help you to define your values or perhaps better said your values define the boundaries you want placed around you.
The top three benefits of having healthy boundaries include:
1. Significantly diminishing fear and unhappiness by replacing it with a greater trust.
2. Respect garnered from those around you because they know what and how to best honor your needs, as you honor theirs.
3. Growth naturally happens because you are more emotionally and developmentally in check with what you want around you, giving you greater peace.
Boundaries are not about what someone else must do for you but more about what kind of behavior you will not tolerate from yourself and others. Tolerations we talked about in last week’s letter. (Link Here)
Boundaries help you define who you are and who you are not. Simply said they allow you to be the truest you. Setting boundaries stops behavior that is interfering with your own personal happiness.
And in any of this, if you start to feel selfish about the boundaries you put around yourself, remember a little sign I have kept in my kitchen for years. It reads: If Mama ain’t happy ain’t nobody happy. In other words, in order to share happiness, you must be happy first. Boundaries can do that for you. Watch the video and let me know what you think is true for you.
This morning as I greet this new week, I am full of hope with what to do with all this extra time I now have as I am ready to sail on! I hope you are too, as we step into November and begin to explore all the possibilities around us.
P.S. Today's picture above is the moonset from this morning! Always a spectacular site with the fresh snow on Long's Peak.
To Your Success and Victories,
- Cheri
Cheri Ruskus, Author, Creator, and Growth Mentor
cheri@businessvictories.com • 303-652-1718 • @victorygirl
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