Finding Acceptance
That's the way that the world goes 'round.
You're up one day and the next you're down.
It's half an inch of water and you think you're gonna drown.
That's the way that the world goes 'round.
- John Prine
This morning in the wee hours I could not sleep. As fate would have it, I ended up listening to an interview with David Kessler an expert on grief. The words he had to share got me up at 5am to rewrite this week’s Victory Letter in a way that I hope will better serve you.
The term roller coaster has been used a lot over the last month as we all come to grips with all the emotions, we have been feeling day in and day out living through this pandemic.
Last week was a rough one with so many more wonderful souls lost to this virus than we could ever have imagined. I still find myself in my rare excursions to the store with mask and protective gear on feeling so surreal that all of this is happening to me, to us.
Included in the lost lives last week was the talented singer, songwriter and musician John Prine. John held a special place in my husband and I’s hearts along with so many others across generations and the globe.
We had first seen John perform in concert back in the 80’s up on the mountain at Steamboat Springs. His colorful lyrics and candor where so beautiful and heartwarming. John Prine became a wonderful part of Ed and I’s love story.
While it broke our hearts to hear of his passing, we will now always have John’s music that he left behind as his legacy. That is in fact the epiphany I had this morning. Not that John is leaving a legacy – but in the acceptance of the blessings of John’s life that will still be here for us to love and enjoy throughout our lifetime.
What David Kessler talked about in this morning’s interview is that we all have the possibility of walking away from this pandemic with either post-traumatic stress disorder or, and this is a big, if we play our cards right … post traumatic growth.
Hearing those words post traumatic growth popped me out of bed this morning to discover more. To connect the dots of actually pulling something good out of this unplanned and life changing virus that has altered so much for so many across the planet.
The definition of post traumatic growth is, the experience of individuals whose development, at least in some areas, surpassed to what was present before the struggle with a crisis occurred.
And one of the first steps towards this growth and past the grief is … acceptance.
Yes, acceptance for the possibilities that lie in what is, what can be and what no longer can be. Because once we can accept, we can allow for new ways to feel to come into our lives – to allow the change before us to happen in ways that will serve us and others.
As the lyrics from John Prine’s song, That’s the Way That the World Goes Round, shares at the top of today’s letter, we can be looking at the half inch of water to be much more than it is. Or we can look at it as just enough to spark new growth.
Of course, there are realities to be dealt with... however, what is the silver lining?
My best girlfriends that I grew up with and I have reconnected in a big way during this time. From our group texts, to Friday afternoon Zoom happy hours, to the challenges we are giving to each other every week to keep moving towards greater outcomes.
This week in fact one of the challenges that we have been given is to find and share the silver lining of each day this week.
Finding silver linings are in fact finding acceptance with hope and belief written all over the high-level thoughts that we bring to our collective table.
Finding the high road to chart these choppy waters will make all the difference.
Knowing that money is a big concern for so many during this time, I asked Deborah Price, founder the Money Coach Institute and author of Money Magic and The Heart of Money, to share how we can revisit our relationship with money during this time. This week’s podcast with Deborah is called - Go Figure - Managing Your Money During Stress Filled Times. As Deborah shares, "Understanding your own internal response systems really can help."
What is it that you need to accept this week that will allow you to grow? Let’s put an end to any pity parties we may have been hosting and find a way to discover a deeper life meaning with our true inner selves.
I have made the commitment to write 500 words a day for the next 100 days. With the goal being a new book when I reach July 20th. It’s a lofty, BHAG (big, hairy, audacious goal) that excites and scares me at the same time. As any good goal should
How about you, what is the goal that will make you look at something new with fresh eyes? Send me a reply and let me know, and I would love to cheer you on!
Here’s to acceptance to what comes our way in the week ahead as we work towards new beginnings.
To Your Success and Victories,
- Cheri
Cheri Ruskus, Business Growth Coach
cheri@businessvictories.com • 303-652-1718 • @victorygirl
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